You know what phrase, "chicks of dicks"? Well my best friend chose a dick over a chick. I never thought my best friend of nearly eight years would do such a thing. It started about a year and a half ago...

My friend started to date a co-worker. At first i was really happy for her, that she was able to find someone that she cared about and vise versa. However, things started to take a weird turn last spring. She was told by the guy she was dating that he would be her boyfriend if she lost some weight because she was always mentioning how she wasn't happy with her body. When i found this out i was irrate, i thought she was beautiful as is. Right then and there was when i started to dislike him.  

Shortly after this she began to change her eating patterns and excerise more. It was hard to tell if she was doing this for herself or for a guy. Soon after she dropped a couple of pounds they were official. During this time i started to see less and less of my best friend. I suppose this was expected because she usually exitted the scene when she became involved with someone. 

Things started to get really weird when he asked her for 500 dollars in order to pay for his rent, the next month he asked for 700 dollars. He then gave her a diamond necklace during this time frame. Therefore, did my friend pay for the necklace? or did he? He later paid her back after the bank notified her father. 

I started to get extremely concerned when she came to my house late one night crying like crazy. She told me that they were suppose to spend the whole day together. Everything started out fine. They went to the mall, and picked out a suit for him to wear to many dressy occassions comig up. She even paid for it. However, after their mall trip he went to the gym with his brother, during this time she cleaned up his room etc. He was out for three hours, and when he returned told my friend he was going to go out to the bar with his friend because they wanted to watch a sports game.  My friend was really pissed off because the whole day revolved around him. She hardly knew what to say. After she left she came to my house crying because she didn't know how to stand up to him. It was there first fight. It was the first time that i realized he was controlling her.

As the months went by, i continuously saw less and less of my best friend. 

My friend scheduled an appointment for sometihng she has wanted for a long time.  Her family, I, and her boyfriend went with her to support her. It was during this time that i had to spend nine hours of my life with her boyfriend in the same room. It actually wasn't that bad, we had a good conversation, etc. However, things started to get weird when he drove me home after my friends appointment because we both had work early in the morning. It was during this time that he grilled me about my friends past. I answered a few questions and started to feel so uncomfortable that i pretended to sleep for two hours. 

The next day my friend called me and said she couldn't believe the things that i said to her boyfriend. I was shocked, everything i said was true, no lying, i even told her what i said and she agreed with me that i didn't fabricate anytihng. According to her boyfriend i was kicking her while she was down because she couldn't defend herself. I had no idea what was going on.

Slowly and surely i stopped hearing from my friend. The last time i heard from her was on my 21st birthday. She called and said she couldn't make it because she had to go see her doctor. 

Since then i have called her at least two times a week on her cell and on her house line. About two weeks into this routine her cell phone became nonexistent. I had to call her mother to get her new number, it was really embarassing because i, her best friend, had to ask her mother for her number. To this day i wonder if she was ever going to call me with the correction to her cell number. 

Even after i got her new cell number, she never picked up. I called her a few times at work and everytime she had to go because she was busy. 

I have never felt so ignored and betrayed by a friend. It hurts to think about it right now, how could my best friend treat me in such a horrible way?

A week ago i got a text from her saying i miss you. Since then we have been small talking through text and phone calls. Today i saw her for the first time in seven months. The only thing that i could think about for the hour and a half i was with her was will things every be the same?

<3 Ashley